Knowing things. The older I get the more I know important things like… I know nothing compared to this old beauty… I know that I often find myself envious of what trees know and what they have seen… I know that I am completely jealous of just how unflappable they are with all their secrets… I know that my heart whistles a tune every time I go by. I love knowing these things.
It’s all about belonging. At the end of the day, knowing that we belong to our families and our communities is perhaps our most primary emotional need.
In this sermon Brené Brown talks about her research findings on belonging and how a lack of belonging leads to loneliness and disconnection. Here she puts it in the context of what she wants from her church. She also puts it in the context of the state of the world at the moment, and I couldn’t agree more.
In this increasingly disconnected world where blame is the easiest weapon and fear has taken up residence in the bottom of our guts, our craving for belonging has never been greater. But I’m not sure we identify that discomfort with our need for belonging.
Brené does, and she is on a mission to wake us up and make us aware that we have the power collectively and individually to change the trajectory of our communities.
And I say “Amen” to that!
Nothing speaks to the heart quite like a poem or a song.
Kevin Kling is a master at observations of the heart.
By Kevin Kling
At times in our pink innocence
We lie fallow
Waiting to grow
And other times we rush headlong like so many of our ancestors
But rush headlong or lie fallow
It doesn’t matter
One day you’ll round a corner
Your path is shifted
In a blink something is missing Continue reading Tickled Pink – Kevin Kling
Christmas can be such a hard time for a lot of people who don’t quite fit into the “happy family” model. They may have somewhere to be on Christmas Day that causes them a lot of stress. So many people I speak to feel bound by the unspoken contract that says you must follow this long-held tradition and spend Xmas with your family. To risk doing otherwise is unheard of.
It is, I think, quite ironic and very sad that in these times of being able to be connected to the entire world through our electronic devices many of us struggle Continue reading Do You Want To Do Xmas Differently This Year?
It’s hard to believe that it is now 12 months since I attended the first Wellness Expo here in Busselton. What a life-changing day that was! I became so caught up in the energy of collaboration and connection that I sensed in this beautiful region that here I am with my own Expo stall and 10 months of living in Busselton under my belt and loving it!
I am passionate about helping people find out who they really are when they are feeling stuck or trapped by life and it seems to be all uphill. My own journey has helped me see that anything is possible, we just need others to help guide us through when we get bogged down in the everyday. We are not here to do this journey on our own, we are hardwired for community and we thrive when we feel encompassed by one.
Come and say hello to me and have a chat about things if you’ve wondered whether counselling would be right for you. WholeHearted You Counselling will be in stall 22 at the end of Queen St near Marine Tce.
There will be 35 practitioner stalls and a host of inspirational speakers in the Weld Theatre. Make a day of it and spend a few hours learning about what wonderful healthcare is available here in this fabulous region.
The grass is always greener or so it seems. But is it? Too often we are blind to the things that we already have or we have become complacent about having these things. It’s easy to mix our needs up with our wants. Too many wants can leave us feeling empty and like we don’t have enough and there is no end to that kind of longing. It’s a one way street.
Become conscious of what you do have already and look underneath your wants to find the feelings that hide out there. They’ll lead you to your very own green fields.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were taught by the world around us that it was OK to be who we were born to be? Right from the start. Authentically you, flawed you, funny you, shy you, loud you, brilliant you, sporty you, bookish you, gawky you, handsome you, extraordinary you, you, you, you…
“To This Day” – This wonderful poignant, emotional and at times humorous poem by the beautiful Canadian poet Shane Koyczan addresses the crushing, and often life-long, effect of bullying on a young tender heart. Here he gives us a brief overview of the beginnings of his own journey when he was invited to present “To This Day” at a TED Conference, and then sit tight for an emotional roller-coaster as he delivers this haunting piece.
Sadly, bullying is something that most of us have experienced and not all of it took place at school or in our communities, many of us have lived through the experience at home. Bullying is something that needs to be continually pulled out into the light and all aspects of it highlighted and examined then extinguished with courage and a no-level-of-tolerance attitude from us all.
There is still a perception dearly held by many people that to seek out counselling is to somehow be giving in or admitting to some sort of weakness or character flaw of not being able to cope, and they hold up being able to cope as the Holy Grail of life. It’s the pinnacle of being in control and having some mastery of this thing called life. The bitter irony is, of course, that most of the masters would say control is the last thing you want. In fact, the very notion that you’re ever in control of anything other than your own mind is one of the grandest illusions of all. Continue reading Why Have Counselling?