It takes years to create non-helpful thoughts and behaviours so it stands to reason that it will take a little bit of time to change them. Be gentle on yourself.
There is still a perception dearly held by many people that to seek out counselling is to somehow be giving in or admitting to some sort of weakness or character flaw of not being able to cope, and they hold up being able to cope as the Holy Grail of life. It’s the pinnacle of being in control and having some mastery of this thing called life. The bitter irony is, of course, that most of the masters would say control is the last thing you want. In fact, the very notion that you’re ever in control of anything other than your own mind is one of the grandest illusions of all. Continue reading Why Have Counselling?
Who do you think you are? What is your role here on this earth? Do you even think you have one or is that something that should be left for others, for all those who are brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous, not for you… for ordinary you or ordinary me? What a great time of the year to sit down and consider these questions.
This got me thinking about the “others”, the likes of Steven Spielberg, Barack Obama, Bob Brown, Marianne Williamson, Sting and Fiona Stanley. What sets them apart from me and you? And my thoughts turned not only to the well-known and famous, but also to those in our own communities who achieve beyond the ho-hum of everyday. How are they different from me? What is it that they have that makes them become who they are? Continue reading Who Do You Think You Are?
Many of us have a knowing that who we are right now isn’t all we are meant to be, that we are here for a purpose and that often that purpose seems elusive to us. We may feel that whilst we are not broken we are stuck in a “groundhog day” kind of loop that can feel like we are flatlining or stressing through each day, each week and each year.
This lack of purpose can make us feel as though we are living as a fraud/pretender/imposter and it can rob us of any real connection to ourselves and others. Continue reading The Invisible Power of Shame