WholeHearted You Counselling Busselton

The Importance of Belonging – Brené Brown

It’s all about belonging. At the end of the day, knowing that we belong to our families and our communities is perhaps our most primary emotional need.

In this sermon Brené Brown talks about her research findings on belonging and how a lack of belonging leads to loneliness and disconnection. Here she puts it in the context of what she wants from her church. She also puts it in the context of the state of the world at the moment, and I couldn’t agree more.

In this increasingly disconnected world where blame is the easiest weapon and fear has taken up residence in the bottom of our guts, our craving for belonging has never been greater. But I’m not sure we identify that discomfort with our need for belonging.

Brené does, and she is on a mission to wake us up and make us aware that we have the power collectively and individually to change the trajectory of our communities.

And I say “Amen” to that!

Role Modelling – Be The Change You Want To See

Chris May used his own experience of schooling to inspire him to do things differently when he donned the teacher’s cap.

He saw a chance to really make a difference, and by doing so he captured the attention of his male students. After all (you would think), they are at school to learn how to become well-rounded thoughtful men. Chris role models the qualities that he wants to see in the kids, and they flourish. We all do when someone shows us how to reach our own true potential.

Role modelling is by far and away the best way to achieve the change you want to see.

If you are uncomfortable with the way the world around you seems to be turning, do a stock-take of who you think you are. Are you a positive role model? Are there things that you could be doing in your community that would help others? We often assume that everybody gets the same set of instructions about life, but that’s not true.

It’s not a level playing-field. It never has been. But if we take the time to put down our pre-conceived notions of how we think things are, if we challenge ourselves to actually be informed first-hand about the life others live, we might then discover that we have something to offer. Something that is not only beneficial to others, but is also a tonic for our own tired hearts.

That’s how communities and tribes have thrived down through the ages. Those with wisdom and skills shared what they had so that the community stayed strong, resilient and self-sufficient.

We are now a few generations away from an active memory of what being part of the natural flow of life was like in a world that had smaller communities. And we are so much the poorer for this. One of the consequences of this development is not knowing what our significance is or what our responsibility to the community is.

When there is only one, two or even three degrees of separation you feel like you are an integral link in the chain of your own life and the lives of others. That experience helps shape us, mature us and make us feel relevant.

When we partake at this level of intimacy in a community we see and identify up close and personal the hearts and souls of others. I believe this experience makes us much more tolerant, compassionate, motivated, courageous, fearless and alive.

We can all, at some level, be a Chris May.



Healing Circles Return for 2018

WholeHearted You is once again hosting Healing Circles on the First Tuesday of the month.If you are longing for a deeper connection with yourself, others and the universe, then come along.

You will find the evening uplifting, inclusive, relaxing, informative, spiritual and reinvigorating. Take the risk, listen to your heart, and if it feels right join us on Tuesday, 6th March

Tickled Pink – Kevin Kling

Nothing speaks to the heart quite like a poem or a song.
Kevin Kling is a master at observations of the heart.

Tickled Pink
By Kevin Kling

At times in our pink innocence
We lie fallow
Waiting to grow
And other times we rush headlong like so many of our ancestors

But rush headlong or lie fallow
It doesn’t matter
One day you’ll round a corner
Your path is shifted
In a blink something is missing Continue reading Tickled Pink – Kevin Kling

Do You Want To Do Xmas Differently This Year?

Christmas can be such a hard time for a lot of people who don’t quite fit into the “happy family” model. They may have somewhere to be on Christmas Day that causes them a lot of stress. So many people I speak to feel bound by the unspoken contract that says you must follow this long-held tradition and spend Xmas with your family. To risk doing otherwise is unheard of.

It is, I think, quite ironic and very sad that in these times of being able to be connected to the entire world through our electronic devices many of us struggle Continue reading Do You Want To Do Xmas Differently This Year?

The Aftermath of Suicide – Comedian Aisling Bea’s beautifully written but heart-breaking take on her father’s death when she was three.

This beautifully written article by Aisling Bea (30) on her father’s suicide – when she was three – was published in The Guardian (UK) at the beginning of this month. She articulates superbly how the anguish of his absence was a constant throughout her childhood and beyond. How his suicide shaped her view of herself and her place in world and how she is now starting to come to terms with it. It is heartbreaking, thought provoking and healing all at the same time.

Aisling Bea: My Father’s Death

Aisling Bea’s Twitter post linking to this story and comments from others

If after reading this article you feel you need to reach out and talk about what is going on for you please do so. There are so many fantastic people (friends, healthcare workers and organisations) around to help you get through this day, this moment, this time. Take advantage of that.

In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is on 13 11 14. or Beyond Blue  on 1300 22 4636. International suicide helplines can be found at befrienders.org


Wellness Expo – Busselton

It’s hard to believe that it is now 12 months since I attended the first Wellness Expo here in Busselton. What a life-changing day that was! I became so caught up in the energy of collaboration and connection that I sensed in this beautiful region that here I am with my own Expo stall and 10 months of living in Busselton under my belt and loving it!

I am passionate about helping people find out who they really are when they are feeling stuck or trapped by life and it seems to be all uphill. My own journey has helped me see that anything is possible, we just need others to help guide us through when we get bogged down in the everyday. We are not here to do this journey on our own, we are hardwired for community and we thrive when we feel encompassed by one.

Come and say hello to me and have a chat about things if you’ve wondered whether counselling would be right for you. WholeHearted You Counselling will be in stall 22 at the end of Queen St near Marine Tce.

There will be 35 practitioner stalls and a host of inspirational speakers in the Weld Theatre. Make a day of it and spend a few hours learning about what wonderful healthcare is available here in this fabulous region.

The Grass Is Always Greener

The grass is always greener or so it seems. But is it? Too often we are blind to the things that we already have or we have become complacent about having these things. It’s easy to mix our needs up with our wants. Too many wants can leave us feeling empty and like we don’t have enough and there is no end to that kind of longing. It’s a one way street.

Become conscious of what you do have already and look underneath your wants to find the feelings that hide out there. They’ll lead you to your very own green fields.


Authentically You

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were taught by the world around us that it was OK to be who we were born to be? Right from the start. Authentically you, flawed you, funny you, shy you, loud you, brilliant you, sporty you, bookish you, gawky you, handsome you, extraordinary you, you, you, you…

ALCOHOL – Still – by far and away – our number one drug and number one drug cost to our families and the community.

ALCOHOL – Still – by far and away – our number one drug and number one drug cost to our families and the community. Our biggest drug related “inconvenient” truth because it is often too close to home and way too profitable to the government and the big end of town. Makes me see red!!!

“If you’re counting tombstones, it’s alcohol. If you’re counting young lives, it’s ice,” Dr Wodak president of the Australian Drug Law Reform Foundation

“Australia has a cultural problem with alcohol, and tens of thousands of Australians drink unsafely everyday.”… “We see so much carnage from ice use and yet it pales into insignificance with the problems caused by legal drugs like alcohol by a much larger group of Australians everyday,” AMA President Michael Gannon

Ice addiction ‘pales into insignificance’ compared to harms linked to alcohol abuse

Genevieve Morrissey